Getting all the attention from your parents is one of the advantages being the only child in the family. Parents that make a minimal income may stop after the first child considering the fact that they only have an average or even below-average income. My twin brother is nice enough, but he is an incredibly selfish person and has next to no insight into his behaviour. Sulloway, 1997 I found great interest in this topic because I myself am an only child. If you're struggling, have you given thought to a comment someone made to you that changed the way you thought about something? Doesn't really help that my mom used to watch full house all the time. Although there are positives of foster care, there can be negatives as well. The only child is automatically judged by people.
Everything that they know and love about the world mostly comes from what they see around in their house. I am just confused becoz. Cons: — No one to share responsibility with. They work all the time and miss out on family activities all the time. I dont want to burden ourselves with another child financially and physically.
I also think that only child is a poor choice. Loving a child helps to shape a child's future, in-order to encourage healthy values but too much of love makes them ill-mannered and makes them throw tantrums even when they grow up. Most of their time is anyway spent with them. Now, I realize that this is only observation and not a confirmation by any means, but it stands to reason that when parents lavish attention and resources on their child, that it will reap benefits from that attention. I personally feel that there is simply a better opportunity for parents to create a deep bond based on when they only have one child to focus on.
Everything was arranged and I was happy. Anything that he needed, his parents supplied him with. I never had to compete for it. I called my friend, and she soothed that it was not my fault, but I felt really bad. My parent's welfare will all on my shoulders but it doesn't bother me. It all depends on how parents bring up their kids and your parents have obviously done a good job with you : As far as the loneliness thing, a person can learn to adapt and live in a way where it doesn't affect them as much.
And after all that, I'm glad I have two older siblings. I ended up doing a lot of reading and drawing. My husband only wanted one as he hates his brother but does admit his brother was a playmate in younger years. But I did enjoy having all their attention. He teen-aged years were rocky, because we had been close.
Thanks so much for sharing this. Also, when you parents get older, being an only child, you would have to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of your parents on your own, which might be overwhelming. Many people consider these children to be at some sort of disadvantage. I love my siblings, but just now as they are 20 and 18, and I'm 28 can I hang out with them a little more, but our lives are obviously in very different places. To avoid such problems, families have a tendency to have more than one child. Parents are more patient and less frazzled — The more children in a household, the louder, messier, more chaotic things can be.
What are the pros and cons of being the only child? I am also very hard on myself as I expect myself to be perfect. Personally, I do not want to be the only child. The Advantages: Being an only child can be either good or bad, depending on how you perceive it and how you are brought up by your parents. We don't know what it means to share things or be considerate of others' needs and wants. However, i always keep an open mind because i believe family is everything and siblings are family so in the end we have to love them and just tolerate them if that's what it is.
She makes him read books on tropical fish. It becomes a new normal. Our generation is becoming more and more keen on the idea of living life to the fullest and living a life full of love. Mainly because of the economy. I can make sure she is supported with a plan when her father and I get old, but making sure she has all the emotional support — the kind a sister or brother can provide — is much harder. Whether you are an only child or a child with siblings, your life can be happy. That's just my opinion though, others may have a different view!! For example, one of my friends needed advice about a boy that she had a crush on.
A person who challenged a stereotype you held? This syndrome is, however, not limited to China but can be found across geographies and societies. Except the parental pressure one; that one is very true. I also spent my summers playing with friends or cousins too. I know in my heart this is not good for my only. You're the only one they have to love and waste twenty or thirty years of their life on. My mother told me that she did not adopt another child because I was enough, and she also said if she adopted another, there would be fights.